Updated: May 15
Does anyone want to die?
No. No one really wants to die. But everyone dies in the end anyway.
When people say that they have had enough and want to die, it probably means that he or she wants to stop the ‘suffering’ and ‘pain’, not that they really want to ‘die’.
So, it seems few people really want die. The truth is that most of us really want to ‘live’.
But the question is “are you truly living?”
Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse who spent years taking care of the dying in the last three months of their lives asked the patients about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently. “In their answers,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
The 5 Greatest Regrets of the Dying are:
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
I wish I hadn't worked so hard
I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
I wish that I had let myself be happier
Source from Top Five Regrets of the Dying
It is quite Interesting to see that we live our lives trying to achieve more, gain more and accumulate more, and yet, those things, in which a lot of people invest the majority of their time, didn’t even come close to any of the regrets they mentioned when it was time to round up their lives.
Such regrets included ‘not having enough money or never having owned a house or not having a reputable job.
This gives us insight as to how one should live or what our priorities in our life should be.
If you look at the above list carefully, what it comes down to is that you really need to understand who you really are, in order to live a fulfilled life without regrets.
When you understand who you really are, then, that is when you can live true to ‘yourself’.
When you become your true self, you will understand the reason and purpose of your existence. Then you will be able to put the priorities on what you came into this world for, rather than working just to get by, without any fulfilment in your heart.
When you are being your true self, then you won’t be afraid of how others perceive you. Because you know the truth and you can simply and genuinely be able to express your feelings or thoughts without getting caught in fear.
By knowing who you are and what the life is about, you will certainly be able to put priorities on matters that truly matter. Finding time for your loved ones and sharing good things together, and finding time for helping others won’t be so hard.
Because you know your true value, you will know how to live truly. Then, you will be able to have the genuine happiness within you.
Finding your true self, knowing your true value is essential in living a fulfilled life.
Just like it is so much easier to locate where things are at home when the house is clean, neat and tidy, it is also necessary to clear your mind in order to find your true self.
One of my favourite sayings is : ‘“You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes a day. Unless you're too busy, then you should sit for an hour.”
It is so true. In order for a car to have a long life span, it needs to stop and cool the engine and re-fuel etc. Just running at full speed without stopping might look like it’s getting somewhere at first but it can easily break down half way.
Your mind is the engine that runs your life. Stop, cool and re-charge it.